Dear College Student:
Congrats! You are now a college student! All grown up and moving out and so very ready to start the next chapter of your life! One piece of advice: be yourself.
Here’s the scene: It’s your first day on campus for Orientation or Week of Welcome: everyone arrives on campus checking out whatever everyone else is doing. People are wondering what is normal and what is ok and how to feel accepted. Most people make decisions based on what they think their peers will do and what they see their peers doing. But that ends up being really unhealthy and completely unproductive – you end up having friends you have nothing in common with. You’ll feel like an impostor (a very real issue for college students and you’ll feel suffocated by your own experience.
Instead, take this time to really get to know yourself. Listen to your body and your values and your needs. Make decisions that work for you!
- As much as possible, schedule your classes at times when you are most awake and productive. You can’t always avoid a 7AM class, but if you’re an afternoon person, try to schedule classes in your sweet spot. Same goes for study times.
- Take time for yourself. You don’t need to socialize 24/7 (I’m looking at you, introverts!). You probably now share a room with at least one other person, eat in a noisy environment, and now attend how many hours of classes? It can be hard to hear yourself over all that noise, so take some time for yourself. For most people, that can mean finding a quiet spot outside, going on a hike, or taking advantage of your campus’ meditation room, massage chair, or napping pod.
- Wear what’s comfortable for you. College is one of the few times in your life where you have absolutely no dress code. Express yourself through your clothing and be comfortable – you will find yourself better able to focus.
- Try something you’ve always wanted to. College is all about learning about yourself and there should be plenty of opportunities in your campus clubs or college town to try out new activities or hobbies. Take a pottery class, join the ski club, or try out for a play. If you don’t like it, no one will judge you and you can move on to a new adventure. Who knows? You might just find your life passion and/or your new best friend.
- Say no to relationships and hookups that don’t feel good. Life’s too short. Figure out what you want from intimate relationships and friendships and hold out for that. (Note: sometimes it takes a few bad experiences to find out very clearly what you don’t want. Don’t beat yourself up about it, but don’t keep repeating the same regrets).
College is a time to truly get to know yourself. You are the one person that you will spend the rest of your life with, so why not start off becoming the best version of yourself today?!
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